Thread: You crash your pride and joy

Originally Posted by Stealthyking

i have to disagree with you on that statement, but to each their own.

What I was getting at is that money can't relpace a friend or loved one. Money can't bring you back to life when you make a mistake. Trust me. I love material stuff. But if you lose it for whatever reason, just be glad it is something that can be replaced with money. The most valuable things we can have, our friends, family, relationships, good feelings and memories... These are things no stack of cash can replace once they are gone.

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Originally Posted by HeavyG

What I was getting at is that money can't relpace a friend or loved one. Money can't bring you back to life when you make a mistake. Trust me. I love material stuff. But if you lose it for whatever reason, just be glad it is something that can be replaced with money. The most valuable things we can have, our friends, family, relationships, good feelings and memories... These are things no stack of cash can replace once they are gone.

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Oh well yea thats a given, i thought you meant that in a different way, Im looking back on the situation now and just laughing about it and just saying at least im ok and can cross it off my bucket list. haha!

Originally Posted by Alundil

I can't imagine how this was a bucket list moment. Laughing and joking about this as some act of young adult invincibility bravado makes me think that you don't comprehend or respect just how badly this could've gone. If even minor details like timing was different the outcome could've been DUI or vehicular manslaughter.

But this seems to be going the dead horse route.

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Right right, so let me get this straight, Im supposed to sit in my room and think about what ive done? Cry over my thoughts and actions instead of be thankful that NO ONE got hurt nor in trouble and i only messed up my pride and a car? Honestly i dont think its some adolescent young macho man invincibility, You know what i think it is? A mature way of moving on from something horrible instead of dwelling on it like some sad puppy sitting in the corner with my tail between my legs. I think i stated clearly enough more then 5times what i did was wrong, and admitted it several times. I get it and learned from it, Ive moved on and am a better person.

It doesnt take me months to learn from something, I learn quick and move on quicker. Whats the point of dwelling on the past and being scolded for it over and over again?

Originally Posted by Alundil

Because that's what I said.....except I didn't. :banghead:

I was in a car right behind a buddy's car several years ago. Driver, under the influence, ran a stop light at 65 (in 35), t-boned my friend's car. Killed him instantly. It could have just as easily been me....seconds difference. That was my point.

**Shakes head**

You still seem pretty angry. Your defensive "I've learned my lesson so hahaha" doesn't offer any inkling otherwise. I don't find your story, or your "recovery" funny or a joking matter at all. It's an extremely personal thing to me (and possibly others) and hearing you make lite of what could've resulted in a devastating scenario is troubling. The people who have posted on this thread probably do so because "they give a shit" and are trying to show that they care about you and the people around you, not because they couldn't care less.

But like I said, dead horse. Glad no one got hurt. Hope it doesn't happen again.

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See and this is where no one is understanding where im coming from, Im appreciate everyone here their concerns and how they feel, I too have lost several people VERY Close to me due to stupidity accidents such as this, My thing is, and im NOT angry anymore about this situation, is theres no point in dwelling on what could have happened or thinking i need to take it more seriously, I have taken this WHOLE thing seriously, Im literally heartbroken over my car and the fact that i had a friend in the car with me and am scared shitless that he could have been killed. I am taking 5 anger management therapy sessions over this incident. I posted here about this because im no longer apart of that whole "Social networking" bullshit that goes on now a days as far as FB instagram and the likes, TPG is my ONLY social network anymore and i posted it here to vent not upset anyone or make them feel sorry for me, I dont want that nor do i ask for that EVER.

Ive heard enough from my closest friends to family and people who hate my guts to know what i did was wrong and that i fucked up, so yes i am approaching the rest of this situation with a HAHAHAHAHA I dont give a fuck attitude because im the type of person to not cry over spilled milk. if you catch my drift, Maybe were just not seeing eye to eye and maybe we never will, at the end of the day, i love everybody here, have NO hard feelings, and I sincerely apologize if i upset anyone over the way im acting about my situation.

Im making it a joking matter because if i dont, Ill just be depressed, If im depressed i become more angry and upset and make More irrational decisions, Im taking this situation the best way i know how, To be easy about it and laid back and just ride the wave.

My comments were not intended to bum you out over this stuff. Actually, I was just trying to say don't be bummed out by the car getting messed up. It is just a car. You will get another one and have many of them through the course of your life. If you put too much emotion into personal possessions, you are almost always going to be setup to fail.

Sure, it sucks. I hated the fact that my Accord was wrecked. I got it at such a great deal and it has just been a great car to me and my girlfriend (she used it as her daily driver). I felt the same sort of emotions... She was driving the car downtown in an area she had never been to before as she was volunteering at the Tampa Public Library. She was looking at her GPS trying to find a parking lot, and she ran a red light. She wasn't being negligent. She just made a mistake and did not see the light change.

Was I angry? Sure. After finding out that she was okay as was the driver that collided with her, I immediately started asking "why?" she was down there. On top of her full time job, she volunteers at a museum and the county libraries 3 times/week. So not only was my car destroyed, but it was done so while she was on the way to "volunteering".

In the end, we ended up getting a 2013 Toyota Camry SE. So a newer, nicer, safer car with much better fuel economy. I am just out money... which I suppose is still the better situation than being without a girlfriend. Losing the car sucks, but two weeks later, we had another car.