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**rv2pc3d** · 03-01-08, 11:50 AM

Originally Posted by triggerhappy2005

Originally Posted by Teh Munk

so how sad is this but when ya need help, ask friends right?

so me and my gf have been together for like 3 and a half years or something like that, been living together for over a year now.....i want out. i cant take this shit anymore, she wants to get married. We both just turned 21 and i keep telling her we are way too young to get married or any of that shit. It just seems like every day something happens that drives me crazy and makes her want to marry me. I seriously dont know if one of us has lost it but i cant take this craziness anymore.....

the only hard part is that we've been splitting stuff so it'll almost be like a fucking divorce with "who gets this" type shit. Dont get me wrong i love this girl and ive known her for 10+ years. But i started thinking that we were better off as friends and nothing more.

It's simple, you're 21, don't get married. For every marriage that worked out at that age there are a thousand that did'nt. How much money do you have? Because raising a family takes more than love. Please please please don't do it. You have plenty of time to get married if that's even what you want. Why not just be with her without getting married? She'll say "are you afraid to make a commitment?" and you'll say "no honey I'm commited to you but are you so insecure that you ned a contract?"

One last thing do not have children until you are at least 30. Any goals that you have will be shelved forever despite what anybody says. The time needed to properly raise a child will kill any chance of going to college or the time needed to invest in a new job/business. As much as you want to have sex is as much as she wants to have a baby. Never forget that. Guys will say and do almost anything to get some and girls will also do the same to get a child and that includes lying about it. This may sound harsh but it is the God's honest truth and it comes from experience. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice because your future is at stake.

DAMN trigger, you've just changed my opinion of you. Damn...... (and in a good way)

**Teh Munk** · 03-01-08, 03:54 PM

Thanks for everyone's input. I made the choice to end it because i pretty much realized i love her, as a friend. I would do anything for her, but the actual seriousness of the relationship just kinda slipped away. We had worked through so many problems, but with every fight came up "why dont you just end it" (she was the only one to say it) and i pretty much just realized that i would be alone and then try to work things out because i didnt want to be alone. Further i kind of realized (in a drunken state) that i was just waiting for a convenient time to end this for both of us so it would be as easy as possible. I realized that there is no convenient time for something like this. I did think i was in love at one point but that just slipped away gradually.

again thanks for all your input....see ya cats around

**MacDre707** · 03-01-08, 04:59 PM

Relationships are overrated.

**rv2pc3d** · 03-01-08, 07:25 PM

I do here that there are more fish in the sea; and I beleive that it is Saturday night; so get off the Freaking forums and go get some!

**Teh Munk** · 03-02-08, 12:18 AM

Originally Posted by rv2pc3d

I do here that there are more fish in the sea; and I beleive that it is Saturday night; so get off the Freaking forums and go get some!

the last time i had to go out and get some, i had to ask my parents for the car....... ill just go to the bar and get drunk and let my looks do the rest

haha sad

**Turtlesexx** · 03-02-08, 09:43 AM

I have recently discovered that there are 2 kinds of happy. There is being content and being completely happy. Content you can live with and probably be happy for the most part but completely happy is a WHOLE new kind of happy that you don't even realize exist.

I was content and somewhat happy in my marriage for 7 years and then I realized that we really don't have anything in common but our son and that we can still put his interest first and not be together. It's still hard some days but overall I think I made the right decision. I have had a small taste of the completely happy and I can't even describe how nice it feels to sit next to someone and feel that kind of peace.

I think you should just cut your losses and yes it will suck. It always does but after a month or 2 things will level out. When I left I only took a few important things like my PC and clothes and a few electronics that she never used anyway. I left everything else. Flat screen tvs and all. I didn't want my son to see the house any different than before I left and it has all been worth it. I still see him everyday and he hasn't had too much of a change in lifestyle.

With that said you should definitely get out before kids come into the picture. That is a whole different story. Hopefully everything will be very civil like my situation. All we want is our son happy. Good luck.

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**MyNameDidntFit** · 01-21-11, 03:17 AM

This one I dun give a shit about. It's not flaming, per se and, honestly, if THIS was the reason behind him getting himself banned I wouldn't be surprised (regardless of what BS he fed you, TP).

**imported_Target Practice** · 01-21-11, 09:38 AM

I dunno. I found the guy as much a douche as everyone else, but he seemed pretty genuine when I spoke to him about it. Whatever the situation though, rules are rules, and insulting a banned member is still insulting a member and is still against the rules.

As far as this particular post goes, I agree. It's an opinion + it's not insulting + it's in the GD thread = it's fine.