Thread: Just how do you cope with a death?

Tough stuff.

Here is my two cents:
Greif is a cycle, best thing to do is to walk through the cycle with them and make sure they don't get stuck somewhere:

Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.
Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.
Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.
Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out. (this may be his drinking)
Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.
Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.
Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.

I agree with focusing on the good things but also he has responsibilities to his wife and kids, he should focus on them and not on his own pain.

The most powerful thing that has gotten me through the toughest times is my faith. My personal relationship in prayer to God brings me great confort even when there is no one else around to help me. If your bro has a faith perhaps now is a good time to turn to that for comfort.

Regards,

Pyro

Thanks guys for your support and all. Im suppose to be in his racing clan when i turn 18 but right now im just helping with his stats and improvments. I have gone fishing with him but the gas prices forced us to stop. Well I just hope all your advice will help our family. Thanks guys.

-DonVito