Thread: Thoughts on cutters

Originally Posted by Walkerxes

Originally Posted by Arreo

Originally Posted by Tick

Seriously? Why is this even being discussed here?

Predictions for this thread as follows:

1. You'll have people telling you to do the sensible thing and get her some professional help.

2. You'll have people telling your emo girlfriend to stop crying in dark rooms and deal with it.

3. This thread will be locked.

What are you trying to accomplish here? Garner sympathy for your girlfriend's situation? Not bloody likely. I personally know, off the top of my head, at least 20 people who I will bet massive amounts of money on have had to deal with worse shit than whatever she's dealing with, and have pulled it off without doing anything as stupid as slicing themselves up.

Get her some help, but do her and yourself a favor and keep it off public forums.

I have to agree. This isn't a topic that needs to be discussed at TTP. It needs to be discussed with your GF and a psychiatrist.

When you have a problem, you turn to people you consider friends and/or people's opinion whom you trust. If that's a buddy you call.. fine.. if that's people on a forum.. well that's fine too.

If you're relying on the input from a forum consisting of random people, most of whom you've probably never met, to deal with a situation like your girlfriend cutting herself, then you're either A) completely oblivious to how serious her situation is, or B) a friendless, insensitive prick who's looking for a quick solution to what you consider a mild annoyance. Either way, like I said, this isn't the fucking place for shit like that. Like others have said, cutting is like any other drug addiction. Why would you even consider asking people who don't even know you or your girl how to best deal with a situation like that?

Get her some professional help, and stop looking for an easy "Google" answer to a serious problem.

Originally Posted by Cojiro

i do it all the time and as far as i know its just because my hands just dont feel right in a way after a while.

Tha'ts true but it also becomes habit forming. I can stop when ever I want to.... honest

Originally Posted by Watsyurdeal?

I needed advice Tick, I don't know what to do about it and her parents aren't any help. They keep ignoring and think they have a perfect life cause they're all christian. But that's bs, she needs help but the question is how do I get it for her. I may be her boyfriend but I'm not a cutter and I don't really like people who do. She started it during our relationship due to school and her best friends backstabbing her. If this thread gets locked then so be it, but I need some advice cause I'm seriously worried sick about her. Keep in mind that I've been dating her for 19 months, I think it's my right that if I care about so deeply that I should find help for her in any way I can.

It may be your right, but looking for help with something as serious as this on the internet is just fucking stupid, and I feel sorry for her simply because your first choice after talking to her parents was to post something on a public forum. If her parents and friends won't help her, and your primary source of information and advice is this place, then you might as well start asking about tombstone and mortuary pricing.

Cutters:

They suffer from what is called by some "Deliberate Self Harm Syndrome," by others "complex post-traumatic stress disorder" (PTSD), "Repetitive Self-Harm Syndrome" or "multiple personality/dissociative identity disorders" (MPD/DID). Many of these people simply call themselves "cutters," and some simply call what they do SI, or self-injury. The majority of cutters are women, between the ages of 13 and 30, but there are cutters of every age and gender. the self-mutilation relieves anxiety and/or depersonalization symptoms which could lead to psychosis or suicide if not alleviated. Self-harm can be focusing, calming. It can give a person a feeling of control over their lives and their bodies which they have experienced no other way. People trying to help cutters should not try to take this coping mechanism away from the cutters without helping them first come to terms with things that trigger incidents and learning new, healthier coping mechanisms with which to replace the old ones.

For many cutters, self-mutilation seems the only appropriate response to the state of the world and to how they're feeling about it and about themselves. Many cutters are extremely intelligent, sensitive, and creative people who have a hyper-sensitivity to the world around them. They may feel like an open wound walking through this extremely screwed up world while most people see m happily oblivious to all that's wrong with everything.

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

http://www.vinland.org/scamp/institute/dsh.html

I would suggest finding a help line of some sort to help you with suggestions my friend. Her situation could be deeper than anyone of us know, or want to know for that matter.

Tick, seriously man, sometimes people don't know where else to go. Don't fuck that up for them.