Thoughts on cutters

**Hitch** · 04-28-09, 06:13 PM

If I understood some of the posts correctly, cutting is a rush of some sort. It is also a diversion from some sort of inner-self dissatisfaction, possibly.

She may need introduction to a sport/hobby that gives her a feeling of self-worth that is not too competitive (no, not WOW). A personal achievement thrill...such as skydiving (with an altitude sensing chute for safety measure) or bungee jumping. Try to get her mind off of "self". She may need a thrill that jolts her and impresses people around her so she can say "yeah, I decided to do that just because it scares the shit outta me".

Life's too short and expensive to get shrunk by somebody who wants to put you on meds. Hell no! She may need help getting out of a shell.

st;0 Hitch

**Mudstalker** · 05-01-09, 03:50 AM

Originally Posted by Option hunter

Originally Posted by Nouniquenicks

You're not helping her in anyway.

I'm Sorry, But This statement is completely and undeniably Un true.

I had a friend that cut himself awhile back. One day he trusted me with this little secret. The very first thing i did was went and told someone else (School counceler) about it.

Do i think its right to post This in a public forum? No, i do not think it is. There really are better people you could tell than People you've never met.

Do i think its right That he is looking for opinions and help on what to do? Hell yes, i sure as hell do.

I dont know about you guys, But when i find myself in a situation like this, where i dont know what to do, the first place i turn to is my friends.

Whatsyurdeal Came here looking for opinions and help. Personally, i would, and do, feel honored that he trusts me, And The TTP community, Enough to Come and ask for help with something like this.

Just because you dont think it's right, doesnt mean you have to be an ass about it. Personally, i don't think it's right. He should have Talked to someone else, Someone closer to him that could really help. But instead, he came here to ask us for help. Let's Not Be Asswipes, and rail on him because he did what he thought was right.

He did what he thought was the right thing to do, and I Respect that. I Respect the fact That He Cares enough about his Girlfriend To Be looking For a way to help her. There are some people out there that Wouldn't Give a rats ass if their Girlfriend Was cutting herself.

On to the matter at hand

My opinion.

Definatly Get her some professional Help. If her Parents Wont pay for it, And You Really do care abut her, Then You should Definatly pay for it yourself. If it were me, My Girlfriend Being happy And loving life Would Be Way more important than any amount of money. I would Trade Everything i own To Make Her Happy.

Option speaks the truth.

WYD feels comfortable asking for our opinions, he RESPECTS us enough to ask for our advice.

If you don't "like" this thread, or you don't "agree" with it...cool. Don't read it. Don't post in it. Don't be an ass.

WYD, most of these guys have given awesome advice already. Find her some help, you don't need to find some where to "lock her up" or anything, just find someone she can talk to. Hell, that person could even be you like Investi said. Just do your best, and let her know that you care and don't want to see her do any harm to herself.

Best of luck man, it can be hard watching someone you care about go through this type of thing.

**PizzaSHARK!** · 05-01-09, 06:06 AM

Once again, I question the entire point of this thread when everyone who's offered any type of advice has been met with a lame response such as "I don't want to talk too much about her problem". Didn't you just tell a public forum about her problem, and now you're saying you don't want to talk to a professional about it? I call fucking bullshit. Admins, please lock this thread already.

Tick, back the fuck off. The guy's coming here for some advice because he doesn't know where to begin, and all you're gonna do is run around trying to get the thread locked? Jeez.

As far as advice goes, I'd strongly recommend you two seek out professional help, because that's going to be the best option, I think. High schools and certainly universities and colleges have counselors available who will have certainly dealt with the issues she's facing before, and they're free. It's a place to start, anyway.

Best of luck to both of you, bud.

**Manse** · 05-01-09, 07:20 AM

If you're in high school, WYD, Go to your counsellor. You don't even have to mention names, just ask him/her for advice/contact info for a liscenced psycharist. If he/she is one, even better.

As has been mentioned, if you're in college, most (if not all) schools have trained folk on staff that are available to help you and your girl out. I knew a cutter back in high school, and it was a tough thing to deal with.

As to all the crap about whether or not you should post here: While this may not be the best place, you found somewhere with enough distance from your girl to get some basic advice and encouragement. Now you have to make it personal with her and get her talking to someone.

Best of luck.