alzheimer's/dementia

**-Sauso-** · 06-07-12, 11:50 PM

Same here with my (step) Grandma.

She was living in a retirement place and about 2 months ago she had a minor stroke and fell. All because she wasn't taking her medication.

After the stroke the Dementia really started to progress. The health authority wouldn't release her back to her home and deemed her unfit to care for herself. She now lives in this brand new care home and it's very nice, but she doesn't remember a damn thing and my mom has to tell her every other day that this place is her new home.

Still remembers everyone and hates her family doctor with a passion for "sticking" her in there.

2600 bucks a month..

Oh and she has always been a heavy smoker and such a stubborn lady.

It's always tough on the family. Hang in there man.

**SapiensErus** · 06-07-12, 11:52 PM

I'm so sorry, target. I have not gone through this myself (my family members have mostly gotten cancer so far), but I have seen that the long goodbye can be very difficult. I feel for you and yours. Be strong.

Can you afford a part time caregiver? Is anyone else helping?

**Xavsnipe** · 06-07-12, 11:55 PM

I think Lewie Bodies is something similar to that...from what I understand, and I am no doctor, it is the accumulation of protein on the neurons, this inhibits neurons from transmitting electric impulses correctly and causes the dementia, motor problems, etc.

I feel for you man, I worry about my father every single day...I know these things seem to be under control and then all of a sudden it hits real hard, out of the blue. I just hope and pray that his disease does not degradate into something worse. Really, my most sincere thoughts and prayers go out to your mother and your family. This (mental disease), like you said, is just devastatingly difficult to deal with. Stay strong man....stay strong and be there for your mom.

**moving-target** · 01-09-13, 07:24 PM

this is to much for one person to handle 24/7 its like having a child you cant control temper tantrums /fits of rage if you tell her no or that she cant do something everytime she gets made she fucking hides things and i can never find them recently a can of kerosine her cell phone a small heater and all the satalite remotes

**moving-target** · 05-30-13, 12:55 PM

and after 2 days and nights without sleep i pass out this morning wake up to the lady down the streets voice the police want to talk with me while i was dead to the world my mother decided to take off up the street and enter someones home FML

**gatita_andy** · 05-31-13, 09:15 AM

im sorry you are going trough that, have you thought about getting those... motion alarms, and riging the doors? that works for us to know when someone is taking off.
how do you keep her bussy? folding clothes or whatever used to be their hobby works, over and over if that helps.
even tho u are usually a jerk to whomever can hear............ :P
I am sorry you have to go trough this

**moving-target** · 05-31-13, 09:33 AM

nothing keeps her busy if i let her do any cleaning shed tripple my work load she one time took a bottle of apple juice and used it to mop the floor

this morning i heard the sounds of water she tried to rinse her mouth and wash her denture with toilet water

i need to get one of those locks that go over door knobs i reckon

**gatita_andy** · 05-31-13, 11:47 PM

why not think of nursing home. sounds like its time... she wouldn't know it and it would give you life.
you don't have to do this alone
..............no wonder ur so mean

**moving-target** · 06-01-13, 12:06 AM

i should but cant bring myself to do it shed only got 2 years left at best i'll just put up withit till i cant no more

**HeavyG** · 06-01-13, 01:05 AM

I know it is a hard choice, but remember that she needs to be somewhere that will give her the care she needs. You have shared your own personal/medical issues, and perhaps it is time to face the facts that your mother living with you is not what is best for her, no matter how difficult it would be for you to be apart from her.

Passing out and giving her the ability to walk out and put herself in danger is not good. The choice is yours, but I think we all know what the right (hard) thing to do is vs the easy thing.