Thread: alzheimer's/dementia

theres no easy choice in the matter really and i have worked in a nursing home and i stayed by mothers side while she rehabed in one 4 years ago after a broken hip dont like those places

My mom works in the alzheimer/dementia wing for a local VA nursing home...I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Huntington's disease runs really heavy on my mom's side of the family...I've spent a lot of time in nursing homes over the years. There are good and bad ones...find a good one. It will make both of your lives easier. I've watch multiple aunt's, uncles, and cousins lose control of their bodies in the course of 5-10 years. There's nothing more depressing than watching somebody you love deteriorate before your eyes.

aye i dobut her insurance would pay for a good one heh and yeah when you have alzhimers/demntia or whatever keeps you from being normal they lock you away in a secure wing and let you wander the halls

and here i am at the point where i'm gonna do it. cant handle it anymore i barricade the doors she climbs out thru a window .she constantly unplugs the satellite and un does the coax cable. pours sprite all over the floor. throws out all the clothes and blankets out the window.

i really dont care anymore if "shes sick" and that "its not her fault" all i feel is anger and hate i've been living with her for 35 years and taking care of her for 16 i've had enough

Good luck

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so .... nursing home
its going to be good for both. I know its expensive but have u looked into how u can get help?

she has medical insurance im trying 1 last ditch effort before that hospice + valume maybe a care taker thats gonna take some insurance juggling

as much as i am passed the end of my rope i dont want her to die in a nursing home unless i have no choice

it just sounds to me you went to the wrong nursing home.
I worked in one years ago, lasted only 4 months and I cried every fricking day.
administration changed and it got a lot better.
I hope u understand you did awesome! but you need to stop and hand her over to others, it will be good for you and her, ( I am sure she wont know where she is just like at home) but she will have people watching her all the time even at night.
don't wait until something happened to her or until u just cant take it anymore ( which sounds like u r there )
I just don't understand why you are holding onn, I mean its not like you wont see her anymore.
this is the dessicion my husband and I took about his parents. but at the end it ended up being the best thing for all. look around
do it for u

^ There is an Angel of Mercy. <3 Andy

She's right MT. Putting your Mom in the care of professionals isn't any sort of failure on your part.......not at all. It's making the tough call that her problem is bigger than you can handle alone, and that you both would be best served by letting the professionals give her the help and supervision she needs. If anything, you have gone above and beyond the call. As Andy said, don't wait for something horrible to happen. It's tough, but you need to make the call to get her the help that, try as you may, you just can't provide. It's not giving up, it's realizing what is best for her.

yeah i know its gonna happen i got the names and addresses of the places to check out but im just gonna give it 1 more month see if seditives and hospice work i'll be looking at places in the meantime

problem is she can still partly function she likes to talk to people (rambles on with nothing but nonsense) she likes to rake and sweep she likes to be active
but the 1 home we went into when she broke her hip they lock em in a ward and just let them wander the halls and thats it so i gota find a place not like that