Thread: SpecOps needs some advice.

Originally Posted by Greatsite

I'd do some research on the adoption process I went through. I'd want to know what my care home was like before my mother adopted me, what life was like for me, and maybe what life is like for children in that situation today.

It was arranged before i was born, i was with my birth mother for no more than 3 days. She never married, and never had any more children. That fact is keeping me at bay more than any other.

Hey Spec, one thing you could do is go ask about peoples' experiences on Reddit. There's bound to be loads of people who have had similar experiences.

Update.

I found a "family" member with a facebook account. I look at it ever so often to see if there would be some reference to my birth mother. I had checked before to see if my mother had started her own FB account, but she had not. Just on a whim the other day i typed in her name and a page popped up. Im 100% sure its her, and seeing what she looks like and how happy she is adds a ton of closure for me. Still opting against contacting her, but now that she has a page..... ya never know.

Scott, I say you need to ask yourself how you feel about it. Do you feel anger, sadness, or do you just want to discover a part of your life you never new about?

If you not sure, perhaps contacting a cousin first would be a good stepping stone to working up to such a big leap.

Didn't see the date on this one.

Originally Posted by SpecOpsScott

Update.

I found a "family" member with a facebook account. I look at it ever so often to see if there would be some reference to my birth mother. I had checked before to see if my mother had started her own FB account, but she had not. Just on a whim the other day i typed in her name and a page popped up. Im 100% sure its her, and seeing what she looks like and how happy she is adds a ton of closure for me. Still opting against contacting her, but now that she has a page..... ya never know.

sweet, maybe when your drunk off your ass you'll do something you regret, which leads to something else you may or may not regret. This may or may not be about the above topic.........

"Cheers" cause the above comment may or may not sound like another members posts.

My dad a few years back (65 years old) met his brother (half) he never knew he had.

My grandma ran out on her husband and young child to be with my grandpa. They then had my dad and my aunt, who had no idea about the first marriage or their half brother until just a few years back.

With some prodding from my mom, my dad decided he wanted to meet his brother. They talked on the phone and then my dad's brother ended up coming out to Arizona to meet us all. A year before my grandma passed away, she met and reconciled with her son that she ran out on 60+ years before.

Now the circumstances of your situation could be wildly different than that of my parents, but you never know what could happen. It's entirely up to you, but I would like to make contact if it were me. Good luck Scott, no matter what you decide.

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Originally Posted by SovietDooM

Scott, I say you need to ask yourself how you feel about it. Do you feel anger, sadness, or do you just want to discover a part of your life you never new about?

If you not sure, perhaps contacting a cousin first would be a good stepping stone to working up to such a big leap.

Didn't see the date on this one.

NP, i cant believe its been a year that i have known about her. Seems like it was only a few weeks ago that i found out who she was. Cant tell you how happy i was to see her smiling in the first picture i had ever seen of her.

The worst that can happen is she doesn't want to have you in her life, which is what you already have. It would suck to know she feels that way but it will just keep eating at you until you do something. You may end up waiting until it's too late. I never knew I had a half sister until I was in my 30's and now she's a part of the family. Good things could happen and it's best just to just play your cards and hope it pays off. She could be sitting there thinking about the child she gave up and wondering what ever happened to him.