Thread: Pull me together.

So just two weeks ago i found out that my brother and his wife are getting a divorce. It's about time. My brother is Allen and his wife is Jessica. They have been together for about 6 or 7 years and have been married for 3 or 4, i forget. But theres something i need to say and ask of you guys.

Jessica has moved out of Allens house and has moved to her parents house. Her parents are not the nicest people on the block. Her father was a Volunteer fire fighter and say he was a police officer, thats not true. Her mother is crazy, i call her the village crazy bitch. I don't tell anybody i call her that because i know whats going to happen. But Allens side of the family is worried.

Allen and Jess have 3 young children. Ages 1-6, and the oldest is entering 1st grade this week. Both of them plan on having the children for 4 days a week and then rotate. Theres multiple things that are going wrong with that plan that my brother is fighting for full custody.

At Jess's parents house they have guns. Lots of them. Don't know how many but i can list them down. They have rifles, shotguns and pistols. Their house has been robbed before so they got guns because the cops take 45mins to get to their house. They keep a 9mill on top of a cabnet about my height, I'm 6' 1". I can easily reach that. The rest of the gun are "Locked up", but the 9mill is allways loaded. Thats against our law.

Our laws states that we can permit only 1 gun and keep as many as we want as long as we have a gun lock on them. Gun locks cost 5 bucks a piece. And no guns should be loaded, even if they have a special licence and permit. Shot guns can not be preloaded or loaded. They are breaking the law.

Jess's parents think that the kids wont find the guns. Well these kids climb a lot. The youngest has gotten on top of our fireplace mantel. Thats 6' off the ground. Now remember the cabinet with the 9mill. Thats not right. And as they get older they will find the guns and ammo and will wonder what they do.

Jess's mother has been really crazy this past year. At one of the kids birthday party's she asked the older child, not saying their names for safety, how are your boobs doing. The child is only 6. Allen forced her off of his property and she hasn't come back. That needs to seriously be dealt with.

On Allens side of the family, we have been taking care of the children during the day and doing things they ask us to do. Such as getting food or supplies. And we haven't gotten a thank you from Jess at all. When Allen comes over to pick the kids up he says thank you. If he said that when jess was around she would freak out on him.

Now i have to admit that at our house we have guns. We have 2 airsoft guns. One AK-47 airsoft rifle and a Sig pistol. I never keep them loaded, meaning with the clips in them. If i leave my clip in my AK i don't have the battery in. I never keep the battery in it for multiple diffrent reasons. One, so the battery doesn't lose corrosive acid. Two, so i don't have an accidental misfire. Three, so the the kids don't shot them selves. My gun hurts a lot, i left a scar on my friends leg from it. I shot him 5 months ago. My pistol is a spring, meaning that every shot has to be loaded. It doesn't repload it's self. I never keep the gun loaded so the spring doesn't get lose, or the kids shot them selves. I keep it in my vests holster which its hard to get the gun out, even for me.

We do a lot for the kids and don't get recognized. We never got gifts from the children or Allen and Jess. Allen has told us that she doesn't like what we do for her, when shes asking for us to do them.

I'm seriously worried about who's getting the kids. I don't want them at jess's parents house, nor do i want the kids to be going to 2 diffrent schools. I lay in bed worried every night that something bad is going to happen at Jess's parents house. It's not a matter of what, it's when.

Help me get through this. I just need somebody to hear my voice with out people saying your too young to say anything about this. Well this teenager has something to say.

-DonVito

(Who's side do you go with? Allens or Jess's?)

Well, there are a million things to argue here... I'll just say, with kids guns should be secured, however it doesn't do much good if needed if it is unloaded in a safe that takes 5 minutes to open. None the less, kids get into everything and guns are dangerous. I was around lots of guns growing up. I was taught to respect them and knew how to fire them as young as 5 or 6. I also knew not to touch them without an adult.

My other thoughts, kids need both parents, they got along enough to make them so they need to get along enough and share custody. In divorce I believe both parents should have equal custody and throw this child support bull shit out the window. Now if mom or dad doesn't want the kids and doesn't want to see them then they should pay some.

I know lots of parents that stay together for the kids, maybe better maybe worse. I think kids shouldn't suffer because the parents were idiots in making them. Thats where parents suck it up and take responsibility. I grew up in a mixed family, different circumstances brought me to that place. It's never easy, but with good parenting kids will do fine. Bad parenting and well you know the rest.

Divorce is never easy, its worse with kids. Without the underlying circumstances it's hard to say what would be best. Just my thoughts from my personal experiences.